One of the most important people in my life (aside from my pride and joy baby boy) is my husband. We have been together over 10 years now and married for nearly 2 years. I will do a separate post about our relationship on a later date to give you even more information.
Today, I have decided to dedicate this blog post in talking about how you can reignite your spark with your partner when you are parents because let’s face it, parenting is full on! It takes over everything, including our relationship and coupled with a chronic illness on top of that the spark can be somewhat diminished to say the least.
Now, I am not going to be talking about THAT side of reigniting your spark, as that’s a blog post for a more raunchy style of blog, but I want to talk about easy things you can do with your partner at home, with minimal energy, on high pain days and after your child/children have gone to bed to help bring that spark back and remember why you fell in love in the first place.
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Talking is so important to help connect with one another. My partner and I love chatting about our day when our boy has gone to bed, what my husband has been doing at work today, what I’ve been doing with Charlie, highs and lows of the day and anything in between. It helps to get things off our chest, process the day, have a laugh and a giggle and understand each other more. Even after nearly 11 years, I still learn something new about my husband often. Now, I understand some people’s fatigue might be so bad that talking is a huge effort but even if it is just simplified questions and answers any form of communication can help!
Watching TV series and films
I know I harp on about television and I’m not being paid by the TV and film industry to promote TV to you, honest!! (although I wish I was). However, it is so fun to get into a good series or film with your partner. At the moment, we have decided to start watching The Lincoln Lawyer on Netflix and it is so gripping. We can talk about the plot, how we found each episode, how we think it is going to end and have a giggle along the way. Again, it’s something we can do together, curled up on the sofa at the end of a hard day. It’s quality time together too because you have actively chosen what to watch by consulting each other and it’s easy to do when you are in pain and fatigued.
Before becoming parents, board games were our night time thing on a regular basis. We’d often have friends over to play or whittle away a few hours engrossed in a board game marathon. After a hard day of parenting though, it is often the last thing on our mind to do. However, when we do play, it really reignites the spark because it reminds us of our shared hobbies and interests. My husband has an extensive board game shelf ranging from Pandemic (my favourite) to Mice and Mystics to Micro Macro. The last time we played a game was on holiday in June so I really need to practice what I preach and dust our board games off! I am not into complicated games with lots of parts to them but I enjoy logical, strategic games that have a set rule base often printed on a laminated card for you ready to hand when fibro fog slips in. Even just a quick game like Sushi Go! will leave you both laughing and having fun, despite your pain and fatigue.
Mummy the Fibro Warrior Top Tip:
- Find ways to reconnect with your partner and reignite that spark between yourselves. Keep it simple, keep is easy and keep it fun!
If there is one takeaway I’d like you to all remember today is that relationships are important. Be that with your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, mum, dad, sister, brother or anyone else. Parenting can be lonely, as can living with a chronic illness but sharing our journey with others can really help. I need you to know you are doing the best you can, your child/children love you just as you are and you are Mummy the Fibro Warrior!
Until next time,
P.S. Do you have any other ideas for how to reignite that spark with your loved ones? How do you like to spend the rare time you get with your partner? Please do let me know in the comments below!